Men Logic 101: Q&A Edition.
Personally men are extremely hard to understand and it’s even harder to understand the logic behind their actions. As women we develop question, after question hoping that we can somehow begin to understand men. So, I took the liberty of asking a few women “what is that you want to know from a man?” I generated 10 questions, interviewed a number of men, and recorded their answers to share with my readers. Of course every man is different. Therefore, everything may not apply to every one. However, it always interesting to hear things from a males perspective.
Q&A:
Do men feel intimidated when their significant other assumes the role of “the head” in the relationship?
Yes, because men are natural born leaders. Men love to be the head of the household and that doesn’t necessarily mean in the financial state. Men want to feel powerful and their power is based on how hard they work, and how well he provides for the household. If a woman assumes the position as “the head” it is because the man has allowed it.
Why aren’t men clear or straightforward about their intentions from the jump?
Women tend to make up expectations that they may or may not express and are dismayed when those expectations aren’t met. Most women also can’t handle the truth of knowing a mans true intentions and his intentions may be looked at as disrespectful especially if his intentions are sexually driven.
Why are men afraid to express their feelings?
Essentially men are afraid to express their feelings because in the long run that vulnerability can be used against them. No one likes to feel or be vulnerable. It also goes back to how they were raised and different societal norms. Some men don’t mind being expressive but it common for most men to not be as expressive, as a way to protect their feelings. Men who have been hurt before typically have higher guards and tend to be less expressive of all.
How do men feel after a break-up?
There are usually 2 phases that men go through. The first stage is a feeling of freedom and comfort. I am now able to do what I want, when I want, without having to answer to anyone. The second half of the break up consist of feeling regret and reflection on decisions that were made. If the break-up wasn’t his fault he is going to spend this timing thinking about what he did wrong. Most men hurt and just don’t want to show it.
Why do men struggle with letting women know when they have become uninterested?
Some men truly believe they don’t owe women an explanation, my actions should let you know everything, type thing. Men also don’t want to hurt women feelings. On the other hand they just want to milk the relationship or situationship as much as possible (ima get all I can get out of her) and at this point respect is gone out of the window.
Why are men so meticulous when it comes to what they want in a woman but they do not bring any of the same qualities or characteristics to the table?
Men just sometime have unrealistic goals. Men wants a woman that is going to make them better so in terms she will bring more and offer more than he can at the moment. Of this isn’t fair but it happens. Men also just like to hold their lady to a higher standard.
Why do men wait until a woman has moved on before realizing what he had and where he messed up?
Some men are just spoiled and feel entitled. He doesn’t want to see hr with anybody else because it makes him realize what he lost. Truthfully nobody respects the value of anything until its gone that’s just a life lesson. Also it’s not until the person is gone that you realize what they really brought to the table. How all the little things they did made you happy. When you lose that you notice, you can actually see how those big of an impact those little things actually made.
Do men feel like women are “overreacting” when it comes to the talking stage and being the “only” one?
It depends on the nature/understanding of what you all have going on. Factors like how long y’all have been dealing with each other, the communication levels, and the understanding you have all play into how a woman feels and how she should react to being the only one. One must keep in mind that verbal agreements should align with actions and the agreement can’t be one sided.
Why do men cheat on the women they claim love the most?
The penis has a mind of its own. Men are not emotional about sex as most of the cheating is attributed to sex. Men are reactors. Most men cheat as means of distraction, they are unhappy, or they have this urge to explore and conquer. Most men feels as if their woman isn’t doing this and that, she nags, or she’s not being my peace anymore. You also have men that just cheat because they can. Some men cheat once and will never cheat again.
How do men distinguish the difference between a woman they want to “wife” and commit to and women they just want to have sex with?
A woman worth making their wife is different for every man just like our expectations for a husband vary. However, men consider women worth making their wife someone who inspires him to be a better person, someone he can learn from, ….. . On the other hand someone that he just considers a sex partner is usually someone he is not completely interested in, just a fling type thing with a bit of potential. Men want a woman that turns them on but no just sexually. He wants to be attracted to your soul. Men also look at the way a woman carriers herself and of course you can’t always judge a book by its cover but most men have a physical attraction first. A man knows within the first couple of weeks or within that first month weather he wants to commit and eventually marry her or just something to do.