Try Harder or Why Bother

Ever been in love with someone and then BOOM you're hit with this "try harder or why bother" feeling? This has to be one of the most complicated phases of the relationship.  

You sit around thinking about how much you've invested in the relationship. In your mind you're left thinking 2 different ways, "We've been through way too much and still manage to love each other so it must be real, right?" OR "We've been through so much, too much, so maybe we should just let it go."

Suddenly you start reminiscing. You start thinking about everything you've been through with this person. You’re sitting there thinking about the good and bad times, the laughs, the times he/she made you smile, cry, the firsts, the long nights, how many times you’ve put your pride aside, and all of the sacrifices you’ve made for this person.

At that point, you begin pondering and looking for answers to this problem. You're literally stuck trying to figure out where exactly did we go wrong? How did we get to this point? Yet, with all this going on in your mind you still manage to stick around. Maybe you stay a little longer because you feel like that's what you should do (fight for who you love) but really you fight and hold on because you still have a little sense of hope that things will turn around and end up working out between the two of you. You also see potential in that person and in the relationship, also giving you a sense of hope, right? Does this sound familiar? 

Okay, so at this point, Y'all have fallen off tremendously and you know you should let go but you don't know how to actually “let go”. Even after it seems as if your significant other has given up, you still want to keep trying. You see that Y'all have obviously grown apart or the fire has died somewhere along the way but still you can't let go or should I say you won't let go. Well, let’s be honest. The reason why you won't give up is that this person has a part of you that no one else will ever have.

After all of this, you're stuck trying to get over the one person that once meant the world to you. You had plans with this person, plans to spend the rest of your life with this person. And of course, we are young so that should help a little because we still have time to find the right person but we don't want anyone else.

Now here we are, reality has begun to sink in and you realize that if you continue to push and force the relationship you will only push the person away. At this point, you HAVE TO let go. We make all kind of excuses and find ways to justify why we should stay but in reality, things have changed, you've both grown and it's time to LET GO!!!