Take Your Time & Heal

“heal·ing: the process of making or becoming sound or healthy again. The recovery from pain or discomfort.”

The amazing thing bout healing is that it is a continuous effort. Healing is a process that requires time and patience. Some days are better than others. Some days are filled with laughter and smiles, while others may consist of tears and suffering. Sometimes you move forward and sometimes you are knocked back a few steps by the smallest reminders of what has hurt you.

Healing hurts just as much as the pain that caused discomfort. Healing hurts because you are constantly battling with your mind and you heart. You want your mind to arrive at a level that you may not be ready for. You want to be fine, you want the pain to be over, but somehow you still aren’t unbothered and unaffected. Your heart still feels an attachment to the person or thing that has caused you pain. There’s comfort in holding on to the pain - it can become a protective barrier. However, what brings protection may end up causing more pain for ourselves and others.

Denying yourself time to heal can put you on a carousel, still in the same place moving up and down. Carousels are meant to bring happiness and temporary thrill, but at the end of the ride genuine happiness is questioned. A delay in healing robs you of opportunities to do and be better. Carrying the baggage of “pain” sabotages healing.

Healing is an undescrible point in life. I saw a post that stated “I’m happy, hurting, and healing at the same time”. This is a crazy process but a necessary one. Healing is not a consistent path of happiness. You will have your moments of doubting that you are even healing or making progress. Understand that progress is a process. It may take days, weeks, months or even years to heal but the goal is to always progress.

Tips:

•Set an end goal of what being “healed” from a situation looks like and take small steps towards it. Small steps = big results.

•Set boundaries for yourself. Figure out the who’s, what’s, when’s, where’s of your emotional triggers to avoid letting yourself become triggered. Emotional triggers set us back in our healing process. Although there will be set backs the goal is always to move closer to your goal, joy and peace.