Don't Get Caught Up In The Hype

So interesting topic discussion here.

Social media for our generation is one of the most fluent outlets for people to express their emotions, share personal information of their choice and overall communicate among our peers! Oddly enough, social media (for MANY but NOT all) has become the place where people run to for validation from others, to simply "prove points" and create an image for themselves . 

Given, your social media is your brand. It says a lot about you; who you are, what you do, what you like, etc. So with that being said, a discussion rose about the posting of your significant other. Some may argue that you shouldn't post your significant other and others will argue that you should. But, who says you have to and who says you don't? Who created these rules?

So here's my take:

First and foremost, social media should NOT dictate your relationship. You shouldn't make your significant other feel obligated to post you and you shouldn't feel ashamed to post them either if you do make the choice. I believe that if someone is genuinely making you happy, it’s in our nature to want share that happiness with others. Not to prove “he or she is mine”, “y'all females/males are going to get jealous”, etc. but if that’s what comes to mind, then you are posting for validation from others. 

It’s crazy when I hear people say "I'm not posting my boyfriend or girlfriend because then everyone is going to try to talk to them." But what you must understand is that NO ONE will respect your relationship the way that you and your significant other do. Y’all must put in the effort to secure that level of respect for one another and what y'all have. Therefore, if anybody  attempts to interrupt what y’all have built, it won't work. When two people really love each other no one can ruin that but the TWO of you and the CHOICES y’all make. 

I know that we are all honestly sort of torn about whether we should really post someone or not because you're afraid to be embarrassed, don't want people trying to talk to them, don't want people bringing negative information about them to you. But, ultimately all of that really boils down to the fact that the relationship has to be strong and the communication level has to be so high that whatever someone has to say on or off social media won't be a make or break factor. This is also where trust and honesty comes in to play. If you're honest with your significant other anything anyone has to say will already be cleared up and the fool, who tried to make you look like a fool, will be the fool.  

Now don't get me wrong. I'm all for privacy but do whatever works for you without worrying what others will think and say. Be secure about who you are and what you have built. If you feel like you haven’t reached that point then don’t post. That doesn’t add or take an value away from what you have built or what y’all are intending to build. People will always have opinions when they are on the outside looking in, so always do what’s in your best interest, and don’t ever force anything.

Thanks for reading and comment your thoughts below…