Be Your Own Blessing

As a woman, I know it's so easy to lose yourself trying to love and please everyone else. MOST not all women are selfless and in MOST cases women make more sacrifices than anyone else to please everyone.  

We give, give, give until we have nothing left to give. We compromise, adapt, and transform into whoever/whatever the people that we love need us to be. We are a friend and strength to our lovers. We are doctors, comforters and primary caregivers to our kids. We provide structure and ambition in the work place and so fourth. 

We nurture, we heal, we uplift but often times we forget to reciprocate those efforts into our-self. We drain ourselves dry and we try to recover only to do it all over again.   

 but.....

Although we want to give love as women. We also have to realize that in exchange for consistently giving love to others we often are left feeling empty. The absence of self love and self care causes us to lose sight of who we are, which makes it harder to find peace and ultimately what truly makes us happy. 

Women put on mask after mask, doing what others need us to do or being who they need us to be. We lose our-self and our identity. Jada Pinkett stated "Women are out here numbing themselves just to survive in a way that they've been told they need to be to have happy lives. But are miserable. That's a big loss and the loss is losing our self" 

We drink, we end up self loathing, some try drugs, etc. because we're lost and we no longer have the recipe to our own happiness. Sometimes this creates a wound, one that cannot be filled by someone else, their presence, or their efforts. It's almost like you have to go into a full rehabilitation state and you must take real time to figure out what is it that brings you happiness and undeniable joy. This process will be hard, and honestly it may take a lot of time but that's completely OKAY. There will be moments you break down and moments you have to isolate yourself for the purpose of your own peace and happiness. 

Understand that learning to put you first will also be a process. You will have to say no at times even if it results in others being hurt or upset by your decision. Be you, love yourself, and live for you. Remember your mind, body and soul is a temple and it needs to be properly nurtured in order to continue thriving. Bless and uplift yourself consistently before trying to do it for anyone else.