Love me to my Roots

"You feel in love with my flowers but not with my roots, so when Autumn arrived you didn't know what to do" -via thugahontas

Nowadays, people get in relationships or situationships for all the wrong reasons. People rarely look beyond the surface. They get so caught up in what they see but everything is not always what it seems  (and these are my opinions and views, others may think otherwise).

To be completely honest relationships lack substance because people are quick to jump into relationships based off of appearances, materialistic possessions, or how they can benefit from that person. It’s rare that people search for substance, something more you know. By more, I mean something worth loving when times get hard, funds are low, the make-up / haircut is gone,  and nothing in the relationship seems to be going right.

It’s important to establish a connection with your partner. Establishing a connection with your partner allows you to understand how your partner thinks. This then allows you to actually understand them, their goals, beliefs, fears, likes and dislikes. These factors are superrrrrrr important when it comes to understanding each other. A raw connection is also going to attach you to one another and create a spark between you. That connection will be your fuel when the fire is running low. This will keep you and your partner engaged in conversations, which will lead to a strong, healthy friendship.

The flowers are ALWAYS beautiful in the beginning which is equivalant to the “cupcake phase”. I consider the cupcake phase to take place within the first 3-6 months. This is when everything is going great, you can’t get enough of each other, you’re so “in love”, you’re thinking about them all day and they’re doing the same, basically everything is just peachy.

UNTIL, something happens and it ultimately alters the relationship and starts to bring everything into perspective. This is when it’s essential to have something to fight for and something/someone really worth loving. After the cupcake phase you start to notice things you don’t like about one another that you were blind to during the cupcake phase. It could be something as simple as the way they chew their food, something small but it's something you truly don't like. Or that attitude that you thought was so cute in the beginning is now tryout annoying and you can’t put up with it.

This goes back to having that raw connection because if you truly understand and love each other, it makes it easier to put your pride aside to make certain changes and sacrifices to be with the one you love. It’s easy to say i love you but do you really? Do you love me, the real me underneath all the layers i’ve put up to hide and protect the very things that make me, ME! Do you love the insecure me that overreacts and overthinks to every little thing. Or do you love the persona I possess to make everyone think I have it all down packed, bag secured and everything figured out step by step? The roots go deeper than the flowers you see.

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