How to Deal with a Break-Up
Break-ups tend to be messy. By messy I mean very emotional and often times you don't end on good terms with the person you may have thought you would spend the rest of your life with. Break-ups can be tuff especially when there are a lot of things that are left unsaid, things you wish you would've or could’ve done differently and unanswered questions. Now this may not always be the case but often times this is the case.
Love and relationships have a strong mental, physical, and emotional connection, which makes you extremely attached to someone. This makes it really hard to detach from them when things are over and it's time to let go.
Here's a visualization of "cutting ties". Usually, one person is more attached than the other.
DO's
1. Free your emotions. Call a friend or loved one and express how you are feeling at the moment. If you want to cry, then cry because bottling up those emotions will only keep you attached emotionally to the person making it difficult to move on.
2. Think positive. It’s easy to think about everything that’s going wrong and this starts to create negative energy. Try to focus on the good things in your life and remember how great and blessed you truly are. Also, try to think of it as a lesson learned instead of a lost.
3. Take care of yourself. It’s so important to take care of your mind and body. Do not start worrying and then over-stress yourself . So be sure to stay healthy, eat right, and keep your stress levels lows.
4. Be patient. It’s also very easy to become vulnerable while dealing with a break-up. People frequently begin to let all the wrong people into their life just to fill the space that was left by their last partner. You really have to be patient and focus on loving yourself.
DONT's
1. Do not bash or talk bad about one another. When you're hurting a lot of things get said that we honestly don't mean. Sometimes we say things that we KNOW will hurt one another just because we are hurting and we want that person to hurt as well.
2. Stay away from social media. Often times we tend to run to social media as an outlet but this shouldn't be the case when dealing with a break up. You don't want to put outside people in your business, you may end up saying something you don't mean, and you may end up posting things that you may later regret saying. Remember it's never okay to post personal business on social media because it's open for EVERYONE to see.
3. Do not start obsessing. When dealing with a break up we try to find things to substitute the pain we may be experiencing. Some people start eating more, drinking, abusing drugs, etc. Those aren't healthy ways to deal with a break up. Instead, try channeling some of that pain and anger into something positive and that will benefit you in the long run. Try exercising, reading books, or completing tasks that you've neglected to finish. Just try to do something positive, while keeping you mind occupied.
4. Don’t make quick decisions. When dealing with certain emotions sometimes we act without clearly thinking. Don’t make any quick or rash decisions thinking with your feelings instead of your brain.
5. Stray away from overthinking. There’s no need to ponder on what should’ve, could’ve or would’ve been. No need to replay events in your head analyzing alternate outcomes because that will drive you crazy and take away from any happiness or joy you have.