Toxic Topics
Often times I see women stick around in toxic relationships. On the outside looking in it's clear that things aren't working and you have your friends in your ear whispering "Just move on," "Girl let that go", "Maybe you should just forget about him", "f$%k him" lol yeah im sure we've heard it all. BUT why is it so hard to actually let go? Even after everything has hit the fan? Why are you still holding on? What are you actually holding on to?
So I came up with 3 reasons why I personally believe women stick around in toxic relationships:
1. Comfort Zone: When you've been with the same person for so long, you get really comfortable around this person. This person knows you like the back of your hand, and versa. So, who really wants to take the time to get to know someone else? We fear that no one will accept/understand certain flaws that this certain someone has grown to love about you. Women naturally make the assumption that we can fix things, when in reality you cannot change someone that does not seek that change for their self. So, basically its like "giving CPR to something that's already dead" in the words of Fab. Lastly, it takes a lot of time and energy to invest in someone when it comes to starting over, so sometimes we rather be lazy and just do the minimum and "put up" with someone we are used instead of putting in work to something/someone new.
2. Fear of starting over: No one likes to start over, especially not when it come to relationships. Who wants to let their guard down and most importantly feel vulnerable. No one wants to go through the talking/getting to know each other phase... at least not in this generation. Because 9/10 it's usually a waste of time. For women, a huge factor in not wanting to start over is contributed to sex. Women are often times judged and put down by their sex life so women have a tendency to stick around because they enjoy sex and out of the fear of being judged they don't want to start over with someone, especially if it's not anything serious, or seem as if they are hoping around.
3. Fear of being alone: After being with someone for so long you get extremely attached. Women tend to be clingy physically and emotionally. So after constantly being spoiled with time, love and affection who wants to be alone? We get so caught up in giving love to someone else, that we sometimes forget to invest that same time and love into ourselves. Soooo, its safe to say alot of women become insecure. We began seeking for validation from someone and develop a strong NEED to have the presence of someone in your life.